The Subject of Boys

Love in exile: Fighting for the rights of binational couples

U.S.-born Daniel Clark Orey and his Brazi-born husband Milton Rosa find it easier to live in Brazil because the government recognizes their California marriage license. Because of DOMA, Orey can't sponsor Rosa for a U.S. green card

As the marriage equality movement builds momentum in states across the nation, many couples are stuck in a tragic Shakespearean time warp. Like modern-day Romeos and Julians, Romitas and Juliets, binational same-sex couples are struggling for the right to simply be together.

“It’s a really exciting time,” says Rachel B. Tiven, executive director of Immigration Equality. “We’re seeing change very rapidly, but not fast enough for people that need to keep their family together today.”

According to the Williams Institute, there are at least 36,000 LGBTQ families directly affected by immigration discrimination. For these families, there is currently no relief in legal marriage because the Defense Against Marriage Act bars recognition of same-sex marriages for the purpose of immigration.

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Pathology of Homosexuality

This is another in a series of articles exploring homosexuality within the Baha’i Faith. The first was delving into the historical and semantic context of the infamous excerpt in the Aqdas where Baha’u'llah refers reluctantly to the “subject of boys”.

Unfortunately the exact practice that Baha’u'llah was referring to cryptically is still being practiced today in Afghanistan. You can watch the PBS documentary following the above link as well as find a brief update on the situation from this recent Washington Post article.

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We will always love her no matter what

In the universe next to ours, a woman emails her sister:

Hey, sis, good to hear from you.

Have you seen Elyse lately? I wondered if she talked to you. Did you know what's been happening at our place? You will have to tell me you are surprised. Elyse came out as straight. So our household has been in a bit of an uproar.

Well, of course we are supportive. Debs and I are very conventional parents but we have always supported our daughter's choices and we will always love her no matter what. We may express concern, that's what mums do, but we will always support her. And she is a good kid, we just never saw this coming.

{josquote}I don't want her in some straight pigeon hole living with a bunch of people who, let's be honest here, just breed.{/josquote}

I guess there were some signs. She never took much interest in other girls and when she was about 13 she had a crush on a male teacher, but that's no big deal, it's just experimentation. Even now at 16 I wonder if she's just playing with the idea. Like, she says down at the skating rink some of the girls like it when girls kiss guys, it makes the girls seem hot apparently. A bit of gender bending seems fashionable these days, I don't know.

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On the psychopathology of homosexuality

Prejudice makes me sick, illustration by Free to use.

Does it matter if Baha’is think reparative therapy works? Here is Spitzer’s retraction and why it matters.

“I believe I owe the gay community an apology for my study making unproven claims of the efficacy of reparative therapy. I also apologize to any gay person who wasted time and energy undergoing some form of reparative therapy because they believed that I had proven that reparative therapy works with some ‘highly motivated’ individuals.”

Robert Spitzer. M.D.

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All in His image

“Veiled in My immemorial being and in the ancient eternity of My essence I knew My love for thee: therefore I created thee, have engraved on thee Mine image and revealed to thee My beauty.”
Bahá’u'lláh, Arabic Hidden Words


{josquote}...I was asked whether I wouldn’t like homosexuals anymore now. What kind of question is that?{/josquote}

Let me just start by saying that it has been a tough week. I’ve been telling many friends that I have decided to join the world community of the Bahá’í faith and personally, I feel great about it. I have not regretted a thing; but yet, I have to stand up to prejudices and answer questions like “So, what will change about you then?” I’m not sure how to answer them, since nothing will change at all! I’ve been part of the Bahá’í community for over two years, I’ve been living it. It is only now that I’ve decided to make it official. And my friends being afraid that I might have joined some kind of sect makes me sad and insecure.

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